Comments on: Working vs. Stay-At-Home Moms.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 20:55:08 +0000

Oh… and as for understanding… My mother was a stay at home mom… and my sister in law is a working mother… so I have seen both sides of the “track”… but I am lucky… that my former stay at home mom… is now a stay at home grandma… for that I am grateful… but honestly… this feud needs to stop… it’s not helping anybody become better people… if anything it’s making others bitter!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 20:52:16 +0000

I am a full time working mother and trust me… I’d love to be at home with my 5 month old daughter all the time… but I can’t be… I have to work to provide for her. Sure… it’s stressful… but what’s more stressful to me is that moms every where seem to be feuding and arguing about who’s making the better choice… and it’s infuriating! Every child is different! Some children may thrive in an environment where they have to do things on their own! My point is… that there is no right or wrong answer to what’s better. It’s an individual choice, and I personally am sick of this feud. How will children learn to be happy with the decisions they make, and learn to accept opinions of others if their parents are feuding with others over a personal decision?

By: Rascallion

Rascallion — Sat, 22 Apr 2006 05:39:12 +0000

Hi there, great post! I first thought “Wow, 6 years at home, that’s a long time!” Then I realised that it’s been almost 5.5 years for me & the last 2 I have been single! (Also started a home-biz as I get no support from the x) Time flies when you are having fun!
I must agree that there are rewards to this job and they happen for me every day. When my daughter (5 years old in Kindergarten) says she “wants to be a designer and work at home, just like my Mom!” when she grows up, my heart melts.
Keep the good stuff coming!

By: cara

cara — Thu, 06 Apr 2006 13:12:01 +0000

Hey there,
I’m a stay at home mom with four children, the oldest is currently in Jr.Kindergarten but the rest are at home. I completely agree with you but I find that most people who have never been at home just don’t understand … at all. I have had people assume that there must be something “wrong” with me because I stay at home. Was I not cut out for the work force? Not educated? Not able to cut it? When they discover that I am educated, able and viable they don’t really know what to say. They often say how nice it would be to be home. To relax. It’s sad but I think because what we do is behind closed doors people have no clue as to what we really do all day. There are no accolades, awards cerimonies or cash changing hands for moms at home and so no worth placed on our actions by the world around us. You can see how little child care is worth in the business world as it is. Babysitters get paid a few bucks an hour, day cares are often minimum wage, and school teachers are at the low end of the pay scale. We as a society don’t value child care. There are better things to do with our time and money. That said, I think stay at home moms secretly have the most wonderful form of appreciation possible, we’re helping form our kids, we get to see all the moments, the special ones, the painful ones, and we get to have their hugs and kisses all day long … even if it means we don’t get to wash our hair! In the end other peoples opinions are just a minor problem. There is no question that stay at home moms and working moms both have to give up something that is never fully appreciated in order to do what they do. I wish we would try to understand a little more.